Hello dear readers.... it's time for our Ka-Wise Mom feature for October.
Its Kumander Nene... PBB Season 1 Big Winner.
Flashback to 2005. I remembered interviewing this slim and simple lass somewhere near UE Caloocan. Good thing I live at that time in Malabon, and I know the place. Nene showed me where she stayed during her UE days. What are my first impression of her -- astig! In principles, in living her life as a corps commander, independent life in Manila away from her family. Such a survivor, and a fighter. Walang inuurungan!
Now Nene is a happy mommy, wifey and a successful entrepreneur. Let me share with you a glimpse of her personal life as she chats with Mrs.Wise :)
MRS.WISE: ARE YOU A HANDS-ON MOM? CAN YOU SHARE YOUR TYPICAL DAY AS A HANDS-ON MOM?
NENE: Yes, I am. I wake up at 530AM to prepare everything as what other Moms with grade school kids do daily. We leave home before 7:00 o’clock in the morning and I drive my son to school. Usually get back home before 9:00AM and that’s when I carry on with my home-based business activities. In the afternoon, I fetch my son from his school and there are times where we go to UP to take a walk before going home. We do his homework at 4pm after snack time.
|THE HAPPY FAMILY IN 2010|
MRS.WISE: WHAT COULD BE THE MOST CHALLENGING PART OF BEING A MOM?
NENE: Being a “responsible” mom as a whole is really challenging… it takes a lot of effort, patience, creativity, flexibility, and energy to be the best mother that I want to be for my son. Being a mother means being an alarm clock, an assistant, a tutor, a coach, a cook, a pillow, a teacher and should be your child’s first best friend, the most understanding and loving person to your child.
MRS.WISE: ARE YOU THE STRICT TYPE? HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD?
NENE: Yes, I think I am… but well balanced. I teach him the value of time, trust, and respect. He is our only child but it doesn’t mean that we spoil him. We want our son to grow up responsible, kind, loving, independent and most of all believe that there is God who knows and sees everything we do.
MRS.WISE: AS A MOM, DO YOU HAVE RULES ON: USAGE GADGETS OR COMPUTERS; STUDY HABITS;
NENE: No Homework no play policy, meaning he is only allowed to play if he is done with his homework. During school days, he is only allowed to use his tablet on Fridays and Saturdays for a limited period of time.
MRS.WISE: I KNOW YOU HAVE SEVERAL PETS AT HOME. WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO EXPOSE CHILDREN TO THESE PETS?
NENE: Having pets at home teaches my son how to be more responsible, gentle, kind and loving plus the fact that pets make us all happy. He also realized that pets are like human who has emotions too. My son even introduces his pets as his fur brothers to his classmates and neighbours.
MRS.WISE: AS A MOM, YOU CAN BE BUSY WITH YOUR BUSINESS, WITH MANAGING THE HOUSEHOLD, WITH BEING A HOUSEWIFE – ANY TIPS ON HOW DO YOU NOURISH YOURSELF, LITTLE THINGS THAT YOU DO TO KEEP YOU HAPPY AND FOCUSED AS ALWAYS?
NENE: Well “me time” for me is walking our dog around the village, on a day-to-day basis. Furthermore, my son and I have this we called “Quite Time” which means he will stop talking to me for about 15 to 20 minutes while am just enjoying my afternoon coffee at my favorite spot in the house while reading some interesting articles online or watching some cooking and home design shows.
MRS.WISE: DO YOU STILL GO OUT ON DATES WITH YOUR HUBBY? HOW DO YOU MAKE SURE THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS CONSTANTLY NOURISHED?
NENE: Yes, my husband and I get a Thai/Swedish/reflexology massage together once every two weeks and we do watch some concerts and movies together from time to time. We also talk and laugh over coffee together when he arrives from work every night after dinner.
MRS.WISE: DO YOU SHARE THE SAME PARENTING STYLE WITH YOUR HUBBY? IF NOT, HOW DO YOU SETTLE PARENTING STYLES THAT ARE CONFLICTING?
NENE: Yes we do. We seldom have issues with this regard and if we do, we talk about it and agree to what would be best for our child, basically I read some parenting techniques published on reliable internet sites as well as from blogs and magazines and I would discuss it to my husband.
MRS.WISE: AS AN ENTREPRENEUR YOURSELF, HOW DO YOU TEACH THE VALUE OF MONEY TO YOUR SON?
NENE: I teach him by example. There was this incident where he was asking for a small toy he called “tech deck” and he insisted on buying it because “it’s only Php400.00” and he said it’s cheap! Thus, I thought that it was the right time to teach him the value of money. I told him that Php400.00 is not “JUST” four hundred pesos… You see you Tito goes to work everyday right? And he wakes up at 5:00 o’clock in the morning to prepare everything before going to his office and work there for 8 hours or more before he got his salary increase he started at getting Php400.00 per day meaning he had to work hard to earn that amount of money and it took more than 8 hours to earn Php400.00.” Advised him that he should only buy the things he needs and deposit his saving into his bank account.
MRS.WISE: WHAT ADVICE WILL YOU GIVE OTHER WOMEN ON MOTHERHOOD? ON WIFEYHOOD?
NENE: Motherhood is a big responsibility, you should be constantly ready to stretch your heart and patience in all possible ways because we, mothers, are tasked to raise the next generation to the best of our abilities. We, mothers, should be our child’s first ever best friend. We should be our children’s role model, the first person to inspire them, correct them when they’re wrong and encourage them when they’re down. Yes motherhood is the toughest job in the world so we should also take time to take care of ourselves and do everything with Love.
Nene is a certified WISE mom. She has also started her business NENE PRIME FOODS which she is very proud of!
MRS.WISE: TELL US ABOUT THE STORY OF NENE PRIME FOODS? WHAT INSPIRED
YOU TO START THE BUSINESS?
NENE: I just wanted something to do when my son started going to school while am at
home waiting for him. I started cooking bangus in olive oil in 2010 since it’s one of my
favorite dishes but never thought of selling it. I gave some to a friend for her to try it and
she said it was really good and asked me if I could cook some because she wanted to give
it to her friends too as Christmas gift. I was hesitant at first as I was thinking what if they
don’t like it and I really don’t want to disappoint anybody. But yes, there’s no harm in trying
so I said yes. She advised me to put my contact number on the packaging so they could
contact me directly whenever they want to order again so I did. And after few days, I
received some calls telling me that they liked the Bangus they received for Christmas and
they also asked where they could buy it. From there, I decided to start joining Food
bazaars, I remember the first food bazaar we joined was in March 2011 at the NBC Tent,
BGC and all of our Bangus in Olive Oil in microwaveable containers were sold out.
MRS.WISE: BIGGEST LEARNING AS A MOM-PRENEUR?
NENE: Being a Mom-preneur teaches me how to manage my time efficiently, be a good decision maker and it makes me feel empowered.
MRS.WISE: WHERE AND HOW TO ORDER NENE PRIME FOODS? IF THERE ARE MOMS WHO WANT TO BE A DEALER, HOW CAN THEY APPLY?
For Orders : please text/vibe 0915-905-8888
Facebook page : NenePrimeFoods
Instagram : @NenePrimeFoods
For Reseller Inq. : pls text/vibe 0917-555-6363
And to end our conversation. Kumander Nene, as I fondly call her because this is the monicker we gave her in PBB, leaves you with this wonderful words. This the lesson in life she wants Antonio to always follow --
"I always remind him TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT EVEN NO ONE IS WATCHING. Also, to remember that... there is time to play, to study, to walk to talk, to listen, to run, to slow down, to cry, to smile to be sad, to be happy"
THERE IS ALWAYS TIME FOR EVERYTHING.
And, “TOO MUCH of everything” is not good except for too much LOVE.
And I would explain to him why…
too much sweets/sugar is not good for your body
too much salt is not good for your kidneys
too much eating will make you fat and unhealthy
too much play will make you tired
too much watching tv is not good for your eyes
too much sun exposure is harmful to your skin
but TOO MUCH LOVE is alright because Daddy and Mommy love you so much! When we love someone, we will at all times do what is right and good for that person.